Hey Babes! It’s Monday and it’s a new week! How are you going to start your week off? I am starting mine off with positivity that this will be the best one yet!! The last couple of months I have had many people (friends, family, coworkers) ask me how am I so confident to share my life with everyone on the internet. Today I am going to share my top 3 tips to finding your self confidence and building on it.
I haven’t always had self confidence, let me tell you. I was always insecure growing up. I was tall and skinny and I had a gap in between my front teeth. Big deal, right?! I know, I know now looking back those were “small” things but they were BIG things I always stressed about. Luckily I had an awesome group of friends growing up that accepted me for me and helped me build my self confidence. I believe we are our own worst critics, when you think about it; we are all really awesome people!! We are all beautiful and unique in our own ways, that’s what makes us, US! I know it is super easy to get caught up in the comparison trap on social media and we don’t always tend to look at the beauty that is on the inside. I catch myself all the time and have to take a step back from social media. You have to remember that these pictures and stories are just snippets of our lives; this doesn’t show the struggle that we’re all going through behind the scenes. Because yes, every one of us have our own different struggles and battles we’re fighting.
Comparison Trap
I mentioned this earlier. The comparison trap, don’t get caught up in it. I find myself unfollowing accounts that make me feel bad about myself or that distracts me from my purpose and what I am delivering. Let it go, take the negativity of comparing yourself to others out. You will feel a weight lifted off of your shoulders when you do this.
Words of Affirmations
It may sound silly but I always make sure to tell myself positive affirmations through out the day. I wrote a post of my top 10 daily affirmations here. Please check it out if you need help with that. Whether your having a rough day or a great day always remind yourself of your worth. You can give yourself pep talks in the mirror or as you’re driving to work, they really can happen anywhere.
Remove the Negative People From Your Life
There have been many times when I have had to distance myself from friends or a group of people because they were always so negative. Negative about any and everything. It either tends to rub off on you and your attitude toward life OR it gets old. In my case it got very old, real quick. When I did this my mind frame completely changed. I shifted my focus on more on myself and what I want to achieve and how I want my life to be. You may feel that you have to change yourself to fit in with a group of people or look a certain way. Girl, you don’t. If your friends care about you as a person then they will love you for you. The negative people in your life tend to become toxic for you and your mind. Love yourself enough to let it/them go if it is necessary.
These are just some tips I use to help me, I know we all have our moments of not feeling as confident as we should in our own skin. If you have any tips that help you lave them in the comments below, I’d love to hear them!
XO,
SHAY